PARENT EDUCATION

RAISING A THINKING CHILD
Help Your Young Child To Resolve Everyday Conflicts And Get Along With Others
By Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D. with Theresa Foy Digeronimo, M.Ed.

Parent And Child Achievements With ICPS

As Early As Age 4 ICPS Kids:

• Are sensitive to their own and other's feelings.
• Can think of more than one way to solve a problem.
• Can anticipate the consequences of their acts upon themselves and others.
• Are aware of good times and not good times to act.
• Can better cope with frustration when they cannot obtain their wish.

"By the time your child is four, you've probably already told him a thousand times what to do and not to do. Is the thousand and first time going to make a difference? It's time to try something new." Myrna B. Shure, author

For more information call 682-7979 Ex. 7985

PROBLEM SOLVING
QUESTIONS

ICPS Talk

To guide your child to solve a problem, ask:

1. What happened?
2. How do you feel?
3. How does the other person feel?
4. What else could you do to solve this problem? (think of as many ways as you can)
5. Which idea is a good idea?
6. Are you going to try that idea now or later?

Problem solving can be fun!

Problem Solving
Words

IS/IS NOT
to decide if an idea is or is not a good one

AND/OR
there is more than one way to think about things

SOME/ALL
a solution will satisfy some, but not all people, or some but not all of the time

SAME/DIFFERENT
there are different ways to solve the same problem

IF/THEN
to think if you do this, then what might happen

To strengthen problem solving skills practice these words with your friends and family!

Feelings Are Important

We need to know how we feel AND how others feel!

3 Ways to Find Out How Others Feel

1. We can SEE with our EYES
2. We can HEAR with our EARS
3. We can ask

SOME FEELING WORDS TO INCLUDE

HAPPY
SAD
ANGRY
AFRAID
PROUD
FRUSTRATED
IMPATIENT
WORRIED
RELIEVED

Problem Solving Games

WHAT ELSE? GAME
There is more than ONE way to solve a problem.

We don’t have to give up if our first idea doesn’t work.

Just ask “WHAT ELSE could you do?”

The object of the game is to think of as many different ideas as you can!

IF/THEN GAME
Once you have all your ideas, next play the IF/THEN game.

Think about if you do, then what might happen next?

Then think about which ideas are good ideas and which ones are not good ideas.

Decide which of the good ideas you would like to try now.

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